Life just seems to happen, sometimes. One thing intersects with the next, year after year, cycle upon cycle. It’s hard to keep track of it all. Our stories mount up in our memories, still active, still holding the energy of what happened, whether we were able to handle it gracefully or not. The ones that got the better of us continue to hold that same charged energy until we can sit with them and accept what happened. Those stories are the ones that shape our character, or could, if we let them.
I am sitting with a story right now. It’s something that happened between myself and some dear friends, decades ago. There were a lot of different story lines at play at the time. Each of us going through our own transformative life experiences. Each of us working through what was in front of us to do. Each of us wanting to reach dry land, where we knew where all the pieces went and we could breathe a little easier, once again. Somewhere in the middle of our shared story we lost our connection to one another. To this day, I don’t understand exactly what happened. What I do know is that the end of that shared journey opened the door to a whole other way of living and being that I would never have experienced, had those earlier friendships survived.
As challenging as it can be on a personality level to let go of loss, disappointment and unanswered prayers, being able to see how one ending facilitated a new level of depth and understanding helps us trust that there is indeed order in the universe. Life is on our side, even when it doesn’t feel like it at the time. The bigger picture, that only hind site can offer, tells a truer story than we can possibly see when we are in the middle of yet another grand finale.
These days, especially, we are seeing a lot of old stories ending. Journeys we thought would take us somewhere altogether different brought us to where we are now. The energetic climate of Life has changed and as it has, the circumstances that made certain things possible and promising no longer exist. We look around us and see that it is time for an unleveling of our lives. We have a huge opportunity to do things in a new way, to right our lives and start fresh. We just have to be willing to let go of what was.
I saw those old friends at a reunion several months ago. It was fascinating to feel the connections between us still very much alive. Things have changed and Life has taken us all in different directions but the Love that bound us once lives on, albeit in a different form. We are all on to new stories now. Letting go of how it ‘should have been’ allows us to open to what is available in this moment and write the stories we’d love to live now.
Yesterday was the day of the Sagittarius New Moon. New moons initiate new cycles of growth and development. The Sun and Moon together in Sagittarius–sign of Truth, Faith, Intuition and Aspirations–invite us to aim high, like the archer that symbolizes this sign, while keeping our feet on the ground, connected to the instinctive nature of the body that is constantly offering us feedback about whether we are being real with ourselves.
The positions of the other planets at the time of this new moon sets the stage for intense, transfomative conversations that can lead to tangible improvements in our businesses and lives. The stage is set for purging the old ideas and visions that time has shown us will no longer hold water, so we are free to embrace something that will work for us now.
Our definition and understanding of Love is changing, too. Whereas Love has been a largely accepted as the personal province of romance or what we feel for family and friends, we are now beginning to understand that Love is so much more than that. Love is the essence of our human nature. Without Love we will truly cease to exist. Of this I am certain. It is time for expanding our experience of Love and its expression in our lives.
You may think I’m shooting at the moon. My North Node is in Sagittarius and I have spent my life in service to learning to aim high and shoot straight–letting go of my Gemini South Node tendencies to fritter away my time on inconsequential things and hold back on speaking what I know I need to say rather than being forthright and direct.
I have faith that we are capable of embodying and expressing the loving aspects of our essential nature in more significant ways than most of us have done up until now. At this time of year, especially, we are presented with one opportunity after another to choose to express love instead of pretending we don’t notice, choose optimism instead of dread, choose faith instead of falling backward into fear. There is so much speculation about 2012 and what it means. To me, it means a gigantic opportunity to make a change. To Love first and ask questions later. To Love more and worry less. Perhaps most important of all is that we learn to Love ourselves every bit as well as we love our friends, family and children. Choosing to love when you don’t feel like it may be the most life-changing thing you ever do. Love now. Love big. Shoot for the moon.
With oodles of Love,
Thoughts on Love…
The truth written in the stars
Lives within the heart.
As above, so below.
As within, without.
We have lived so long beside ourselves
Hoping someday to go home.
It seems the time is here and now.
It’s safe to come back home.
Home is not another place
It isn’t out there somewhere.
Home is a tucked inside the heart
Where all is safe and warm.
It isn’t what you thought it was,
It isn’t a mystery.
It is simply letting go of all
You once thought it might be.
Letting go and giving up
The tricks and traps and rules.
At home you are free
To do exactly as you choose.
It was never about being good enough
Or right or careful or wise.
Home holds its doors out wide
Come on in, you decide.
Home is the place you can always go,
You’re always welcome, always known.
At home there’s no need to be special or good,
Who you are is understood.
You can catch your breath and take a break
And rinse off the debris of the day.
You can kick off your shoes, take off your tie
And sit before the fire with a good glass of wine.
At home you are seen and known and heard
There’s nothing you need to do.
You can hear your heart and find your rhythm
And live the way you choose.
At home you are free of the trappings;
The shoulds, hows and wherefores all cease.
You can let go of all the believing
And simply let yourself BE.
Be yourself. Live your life. Love yourself. Love your life.
Today I open to possibilities
And entertain the ones that shine
Today I willingly speak my truth
And release the dreams that aren’t mine
Today I trust my instincts
And follow the inner signs
Today I open my heart and mind
And revel in a breath at a time
Today I dare to love what I love
And leave the rest behind
(C) 2010 Jodi Flesberg Lilly ~All Rights Reserved
Time, energy, attention and money. These are the precious personal resources of our lives. Too often, I find mine have disappeared without me even noticing until they are gone.
I feel that the process of getting to know and accept oneself wholeheartedly is essential to understanding one’s values and value as an individual. We have all been exposed to the conditioning that says, “No one will ever love you if you are honest” and “It is selfish/wrong to think highly of yourself” and “Sensitivity is a weakness” and the unspoken but pervasive idea “Love is something that you have to earn”. Only by being honest with yourself is it possible to know what is true of you.
Here is what I have learned. The art of living well is based in having cultivated a loving relationship with oneself. This means learning to trust your heart and body and questioning the knee-jerk judgments of your mind and other people. It means coming out of auto-pilot-living and noticing the things that spark your energy and enthusiasm, lift your spirits, feel expansive and draw you forward. It means knowing what matters to you and investing your personal resources in ways that support your life and your values.
It all comes down to this: Roses don’t last forever. Smell them while they bloom. Life is precious. Spend it wisely. Love yourself. Love your life.
I had blogging on my mind yesterday, off and on all day. I had blogged nine straight days. I was proud of my efforts and knew that being almost a third of the way there, I could accomplish my NaBloPoMo goal of a blog post a day for thirty days running.
The thing is, though, I wasn’t feeling particularly taken with any of the ideas that came to mind. I considered posting something just for the sake of fulfilling my intention to do so. That didn’t feel very good to me, though. I blog to share ideas, images and information that feel inspiring. If my heart isn’t in it, it is just a mechanical act.
So, No More National Blog Post Month for me unless the spirit moves me that many days in a row. We’ll see. My days of doing something just because I said I would in a moment of inspiration are long gone. When I stretch beyond that with which I am aligned it never turns out as I had hoped it would, regardless of my good intentions.
Living true to who we are means allowing for the fresh insights and deeper realizations that emerge as we are making our way down a particular path. Things are seldom what we think they are as we begin them and sometimes everything we need to fulfill our reason for choosing that direction happens quickly. Other times the path continues to draw us forward and our horizons expand in wonderful ways as a result of that journey. Only in honoring that which is true for us in the moment do we stay in the flow of our own river of life. Loving yourself means trusting what you feel and honoring it with your actions. No one else needs to understand or approve. Only you know what is right for you.
My friend, Nicole, and I hike once or twice a week in the forest pictured above and the surrounding hills. We share a passion for being out in nature, for getting exercise in a natural and uplifting way; we are willing to push ourselves a little and aren’t afraid to slow down or stop if that’s what we need to do. Some of the trails are super steep. Others, like this one, are gentle and winding. Sometimes we follow the trail to the end. Other times we turn around and find a way that feels better.
Go boldly in the directions that call to you, live true and love you.
I listened to a fascinating lecture on Human Design today by it’s founder and messenger, Ra Uru Hu. The major themes and lessons of Human Design is that each of us is unique. This is something I come back to over and over again in my work with clients, doing astrology readings. I show people how they are unique and help them to understand their own genius that only comes through when they embrace their individuality completely. “Love yourself.” Ra says it often. And it bears repeating.
How many of us were taught to love who we are? How many of us were raised by people who were secure enough in themselves and as parents to really encourage us to not only be who we are but to love our self?
Most of the people who come to see me for a session are dealing with some kind of conflict between who it is they think they should be or how they ought to behave and the part of them that just wants to break free of all of those constraints and LIVE, full out as who they are.
I’m not sure how it happened that people are so afraid of love but I see it all the time. Love is the essence of who we are. Fear has replaced love in the minds of so many as being more intelligent and even noble, somehow. Does this seem like a crazy notion to anyone else? Fear is simply the resistance to love. It is a choking off of the life force that creates all kinds of trouble and even disease, for us. Love is your nature. You really can’t not be love, but you do have the free will to make your life miserable by denying it.
Love yourself. It sounds so simple. For most of us, it takes some getting used to and practice. Is it really okay to embrace one’s quirkiness and failings and the crazy things that disturb and delight us? Is it really okay that we don’t care about some of the things that are so important to others? Are we really allowed to forget about the stuff someone else thought we should do and focus on the stuff we prefer?
The question is, if you don’t live your life, who will? If you don’t do what is in your heart to do, who will do it? We each have something of value to offer. All transformation begins from within. If it doesn’t happen within you first, the external changes will be fleeting or ineffective or both.
Love yourself. Start today. It is the most amazing life-changing thing you can do. Once you learn to love you there is a new ease that naturally happens in relationships with others, too.
Love yourself. You were born lovable. When you love yourself, you become Love-able. Loving you is probably the most important, enlightening, life-transforming thing you’ll ever do. The whole world looks different through the eyes of love.
Venus has now moved back to the last degree of Pisces slowing her pace to a crawl. On April 17th she will resume forward movement from this 29th degree of Pisces, the last degree of not only Pisces, but of the entire zodiac. This is said to be the most spiritual point of the zodiac. Venus is taking a moment to offer us access to the subtler wisdom regarding some of her favorite subjects: love, money and the situations that surround and encompass them. As she moves back into Aries next week, we may discover we are ready for something new.
Venus rules our values, our self-esteem, that which we love, relationships and partnerships, and, of course, money. So many of us have undergone a grand review of at least a few of these areas over the past few weeks and months. Unprecedented events are shocking us out of our comfort zones and people are considering possibilities they would never have dreamed of, previously. The ongoing volatility of the stock market; the debacles with so many of lending institutions and banks; the troubling situations of so many of the major corporations; all of this and more have rolled down hill to affect virtually everyone. And yet, life goes on. Art is still being made, most of us have plenty to eat, the people we love are still with us, most of the best things in life have always been free–fresh air to breathe, the beauty of nature, and time to use as we will.
So, at this time of virtual pause, with our Goddess archetype of virtues and values poised on the wisdom point, consider taking a moment to connect to the place in your self that knows what matters and trust that when it is time for action, you will know what to do.
As Venus was about to go retrograde, in early March, I was introduced to a new personal development technology, ironically called, L.O.V.E. Technology (known to many who have been introduced to the technology through MTV, as Sacred G). Its creator, Cory Herter, utilizes sacred geometry and has thrown open the doors to a whole new realm of possibility in terms of how people can experience a process that allows for the healing of their bodies and lives, from the inside out, and begin creating the Heaven on Earth that so many of us know in our hearts is possible. W.I.S.H. F.O.R. L.O.V.E. stands for Wealthy Individual Serving Humanity For One Reason LOVE (or Laws of Vibrational Energy). In just a few week’s time I have noticed a positive change in my sleep, in the quality of my dreams, my relationships are shifting for the better and so are my priorities.
It was not until I started writing this post that I made the connection between Venus going retrograde and my introduction to Sacred G. It has been a fascinating journey into my own values, sense of worth and desire to truly be of service to humanity. I am feeling richly blessed and inspired to spread the LOVE.
As Venus prepares to change direction I highly recommend checking out the W.I.S.H. F.O.R. L.O.V.E site. There are lots of free tools, free Sacred G L.O.V.E. Testers that you can download and print so you can experiment with charging your water with LOVE and sleeping with the L.O.V.E. Tester under your pillow to see if you notice a change in the way you sleep or dream. There is a long list of videos to watch if you’d like to learn more about the powerful and uplifting Laws of Vibrational Energy.
I’ve been saying it for years and it has never been more true… it really is all about Love.
Have you noticed lately that your fuse is a little shorter than it normally is or that the challenging situations you managed in the past are suddenly unbearable? Lately, what I think of as the ‘universal tension meter’ has been off the charts. Between our exposure to the wild swings on Wall Street and in the mortgage industry, big banks and big business playing a game of corporate Pac-Man, and keeping up with the bizarre antics of this unprecedented U. S. presidential campaign season, attempting to keep a lid on our personal matters can seem overwhelming.
When we finally come to the point at which we just don’t know what to do about something anymore we are as close as we will ever be to resolution. The trick is to wake up enough, mid-crisis, to realize this, so we can remember to let down our defenses and accept whatever it is that feels so overwhelming. As we stop fighting ‘what is’ and take a conscious breath–or as many as it takes–we can finally let the distress wash over and through us and out the other side. Then breathing gets a little easier and shoulders soften and start to drop away from our ears.
When feeling overwhelmed, I have learned to stop and ask myself whether what I am feeling really belongs to me. Often I discover I picked up on a wave of emotion I took in without realizing I had done so because I either wanted to help or felt bad for others. Sometimes I realize I have reverted to an old bad habit of taking on any kind of negative emotion that is around simply because I can feel it. If you have caught yourself doing the same thing, a couple of deep breaths or a brisk walk around the neighborhood works wonders for letting it all go.
Grace enters into any situation in which she is allowed. Perhaps it has been Grace all along. knocking on our door, turning up the heat on the situation, attempting to get our attention, to remind us that we always have a choice. She is always available and only a breath away.
Love and fear cannot coexist in the same space. The moment you stop long enough to let go of your resistance to that which has you on the run and turn to face it, is the moment you awaken, once again, to the fact that love is the truth of who and what you are. Love always leads us home to the center of Who We Really Are. When we come back into alignment with our essence it is easy to see that all the fearful goings-on that ever plague us are just part of this sacred, often crazy, game of Life we are playing.
There is no getting around or away from Love. There is just forgetting and remembering, giving and receiving, breathing in and breathing out.
Ahhh, that feels much better.